Diego Carbonel | Again, Marc Answer 11/28/03 2:18 PM as a reply to dejan dimitrijevic. Dear Marc,
You are right. There are many aggressive posts here, and we had a "golden age" of aggressions some months ago. But there are many shades of gray (or of red) in this aggression things, and let me point it out here.
I really admire the wit and guts of the german people. Only germans could have rebuilt this wonderful country in such a short time. Yes, Germany received lots of foreign aid, but this was put to practice on the most powerful way possible, and now -even with recession- Germay is still the third world economy and doubtless the main engine of Europe. But, alas, and as it happens everywhere, there are things that are not natural within Germany. With all my respect, I think germans in general -of course, there are wonderful exceptions- are not specially skilled on understanding the difference between passion and premeditation, between irony and insult, between cinism and nihilism.
Even lots of Germans acknowledge the lack of sense of humor in the people around here. You cannot make jokes based on double-sense, because you will be in serious risk of misunderstandings. Marc, from where I come, the relation with colleagues is filled with little ironies, little jokes, little "friendly" insults, filled with sexual allusion and sport comment overload. Man, you'd better lock up for a couple of days if your footbal team lost in the weekend. Even "forbidden" subjects are object of no offense, and the sense of "politically correct" is difuse. Look, my best friends back in home are from Jew and African origins, and we even may jokes about that... THEY make the jokes, caricatures of their own past, and nobody gets offended.
In any case, double-sense is an almost unknown concept here. Nuances on feelings are also rare: you are in or out, up or down, sad or happy, but the big spectrum of emotions are not clearly expressed. An example: the other day a german colleague came with his brand new BMW M3, and took me for a short ride on the lunch break. I loved the car, and I was happy for him, because I knew what this car meant for him. So I essayed a common expression down in my country: I told him, "man, I feel a healthy envy at you" (in spanish that would be "sana envidia"). I tried to say "wow, I feel envious [yes, that is a potentially bad feeling] but in a good way". Really, I had to spend two hours trying to explain exactly what I meant. I am not sure he got it at all. And we are really good friends.
Here, then, I come back to your "aggression" case. The aggressivity of some of the posts here, are the result of sheer passion. Look, having worked for some time with colleagues from India and Pakistan, yes, I have noticed that this people "burn" more easily than, say, germans. I even made jokes about that some time before here in this forum. I have full mediterranean blood in my veins, and man, do I burn easily! But also, I have also seen that as fast as this people -and myself- burn, they come down. See? That is the product of passion. I remember the great GnR here in this forum, exploding and calling the people "a basket full of crabs" (looks like that is an expression common in some parts of India, of sorts), and half an hour later he was again the cheerful bloke that we all know.
Please, excuse me now for the generalizations that will come from now on. Please keep in mind, that I fully respect and love the german people. But beware when a german gets aggressive. Marc, with all my respect, I think your anger is carefully pre-meditated. And yes, I DO make a difference between passion-aggresivity, and pre-meditated aggressivity. This, which is even contemplated when judging crimes, is what really disgusts me.
You may say "aggression is aggression", and true, in our countries we keep on patching wounds product of our quick temper. But for me, it makes the whole difference an aggression product of cold calculation from an aggression product of the heat of the moment. Marc, whenever you write, a full, systematic, exhaustive rage lies beneath. A rage feeded with introspection. Not just an explosion, but a full, well-planned campaign.
I am tempted to quote other examples, but I fear getting into a too painful ground, into wounds that still bleed. And as usual, this post is already too long. Marc, I still think you have your points in many things you say. But honestly, I think your aggressions are not product of isolated explosions, but rather the product of breeded rage. When you spat "cubicle farm", "I am overqualified", etc., Marc, it is not a fruit of passion. It's a fruit of hatred.
And for me, that makes ALL the difference.
Have a nice day,
Diego aka. Sudaca
PS: again, I will not compare qualifications, because I do NOT feel superior in any way. On the other hand, I do not feel inferior. I know what I am worth for, and where I am not worth a cent (I suck skiing, for example, but even 20 kgs. overweight I could teach you a thing or two in the football pitch :-)) . I suscribe the words of YO 100%... but Marc, sorry, it is impossible not to laugh when you say "I am overqualified". And then we are the ones talking about elites... man, give me a break.
PSS: You say "Try to accept the fact that life is not fair and people have in fact different chances depending on their ability, looks, wealth, gender and nationality". Exactly that is what I would ask you, Marc. Try to accept it. Most of us come from the "third world", and we grew up seeing unfairness as a rule, not an exception. You don't know what unfairness is, Marc, believe me. Stop paying subventions to the farms, stop protecting the Pharma industry sharks that allow millions die of AIDS to protect their licenses, stop selling neoliberalism outside and protectionism inside, and THEN, only then, we can talk. |