<<@krieger>>
Many AM advocates were telling that the high divorce rate here is not due to the fact that it is LM. It is more because of a free, independent society here , people have the choice to choose what they want , no social stigma regarding divorce, no social pressure and no financial problems. Even Gerhard Schröders wife is his fourth and 19 years junior to him. No i am not telling whether it is right or wrong , but explaining the social setup.
<<Thats the point. If there is sooo much love between the couples before their LV marriage, then why do they very sooon CHOOSE to get divorced. I have met soooo many European couples who lived together for years and then got married just to divorce after 2 years.
In India even, people are free to make decisions for their life (just like I did). So again wake up from Your website link based knowledge.
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And why do you think the divorce rate is low in AMs ..? Is it purely because they are AMs ? If not what is the reason...? Because it started with respect and understanding for each
other ? No my friends. Even in LMs these two factors are there in the beginning like AMs plus another important factor called love.(And you can see love is lacking in AMs in the initial stage).
<<Look at my point above and You know how much respect and understanding there is LM. To the extent that Europeans make marriage agreements before they do their LM
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The reason is because of other factors like, social pressure, social stigma, financial,little or no chances in getting remarried, the family doent like the divorce status etc. or you can call it tradition. After all tradition is something that is being followed for centuries whether it is right or wrong.
<<Again Your bookish knowledge. Social pressure I explained in my previous replies. Financial: I assume You missed a post in the beginning which highlighted the role of Indian women in today's growing India. Indian women are found working across all Industries in today's India. >>
And thinking that only in AM once love is gone or low, understanding and respect will prevail is a misconception. How is it possible only in case of AMs and not in LMs.
<<You tell me that, after all You are the one advocating LM
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After all both are marriages.And these factors were present in both marriages.
Remember , our initial discussion was basically about AMs and LMs . And the supporters of AMs were mainly telling about the high divorce rate in LMs or in western world.And there were always this talk of divorce rate in Indian AM is low and comparing it with divorce rate in western LMs. But people are not taking the social conditions of both sides into consideration. The social setup is totally different. It is the social setup which makes AMs tick in India. It is not because they are just AMs .
<<You missed my comment on Indians living in Western world, enjoying the same economical advantage like other Europeans but still have the lowest divorce rate. Go back and read it. >>
And i hope one thing every one will agree upon : There is no chance of forced marriage in LM , but
there is a chance of forced marriage in AM ( And as many people agreed here, it may be still happening in AMs , at least in rural India).
<<Again, I am totally against forced AMs. And as I explained previously, forced AMs are not soo common.
Finally, there are loooooads of couples doing LM in Europe just to realize that the decision to get married was coming from their sexual organs and not from brains. That is equally shameful for the advocates of LM. >>
And it is a pity that some members talk with disdain about the poor. After all they are also citizens of the same country and they are the majority. May be, for them too ,the forced AMs are a tradition.
It is also interesting to note that some of the previous posts favouring AM were trying to depict a picture of LM- girls as someone who lurches around streets with lusty eyes seeking for sex from any tom dick and harry.Gives an impression that all these girls are of loose moral.Now do you think that it is correct
having lived here ?
<<I dont know about others but I definitely never made any comments going to that level.
However there is no denying about the high rate of extra-marritel-affairs/divorces/cheating/un-adulteration in western culture. Again You might want to relate this to the freedom of choice, but does it make all the above wrong as right ? >>
It is a fact that there are people with high and low morals in all socities. It is not just here. It is also the case in India, Western world , Middle East , Far East or where ever it is. Example: Rapes happening in Delhi in recent times are attracting a lot of media attention. I am also aware that in US too rape rate is high.
<<Now You are talking my language. My initial point was to those people who were continously criticizing Indian culture without looking into their own cultures. I totally agree with You that shit happens in India/Asia, but no less shit happens in Your soo called Western culture. To be honest, if You look at it from my eyes, then Western culture is already at its worst.>>
@Nithin
"<<100% agreed with You. Every society in this world (European, Indian, American etc etc) needs self correction and self criticism. But thats the point 'SELF' correction/criticism is needed and not from any foreigner who might have never visited India but is sooooooo upfront in criticizing India culture."
Not able to stand criticism from others and beleiving in only self crititcism is not a healthy sign , whether it is in the case of a person or of any society. It is a sign of Egotism. There are little or no chances of improvement / evolution when criticism is not tolerated. The reason is most people / society thinks that whatever they do is correct and hence no self criticism .
<<You missed the point that We Indians do not need any criticism from Europeans who have NEVER even lived in India but arguing just based on few website links. I have been living in Europe since more than 5 years now and know on-hands-information about both Indian and European society. You on the other side have never even lived in India and all Your knowledge comes from few websites.
First go to India and live there at least for 1 year, understand our culture/tradition and then come back to me with Your healthy criticism and I assure You that I will take a note of each and every of Your points.
Before that You are NOT even qualified to criticize Indian culture/tradition.
So dont expect me to even bother replying to Your posts (which are nothing more the same points You raised previously, which have already been answered by me previously) anymore until You are back from India with Your crash-course on Indian culture
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